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How
To Get What You Want
Introduction
Welcome
to “How To Get What You Want”!
Over
the next 6 weeks we are going to uncover what it is that you truly
want from life and how you are going to get it!
Life
is just too short for wishes and “Should haves”. Instead,
what we are going to do is to design the life that YOU want and
actually go out there and grab it!
In
todays session we are going to look at what success actually means
to you and then we will discuss what the purpose of your life
is.
This
is a really cool session and sets the foundation on what your
life is based on.
So,
grab a coffee, get a pen and get ready for this weeks session.
Part 1: Discover what your life
is really about
What is success?
Everyone
in life wants to be a success.
Success,
no matter what it may mean to you or I usually results in more
happiness, more fulfilment, rewards, money and the like.
There
is no one definition of success. It means different things to
different people. One person’s definition may be totally
different to another’s.
Your
definition of what success actually is can change as well.
When
I was depressed and lonely – when I was out of work, success
to me then was to get through each day and staying sane!
Today
my definition of success is to help as many people as I possibly
can to become more successful – a bit of a difference I’m
sure you’ll agree!
One
thing that is common amongst everyone is that everyone wants to
be a success and nothing in life is better than success!
Just
take time out and think what success actually means to you.
Write
your definition of what success is in the space below or on a
piece of paper. Do not carry on reading this until you have done
so.
If you haven’t filled in the above space do it now! Don’t
cheat yourself!
Sometimes
you really need to have a good think about what is important to
you when you define what success means.
Sometimes
you really need to have a good think about what is important to
you when you define what success means.
Take
the following two examples:
Bill
is a 30 year old married man who works in a shop.
Every
night he returns home from work at 5.15pm and is greeted by his
loving wife at the door who gives him a kiss and a hug.
He
plays games with his children and always tucks them in at bedtime
and reads them a story.
They
have a family holiday each year and are comfortable even though
they sometimes go without to please the kids. The family spends
a lot of time together.
Jane
is 28 years old and is single.
She
works in the City and will be lucky to reach her apartment before
7.00pm of a night.
She
rarely socialises due to her hectic workload and due to the fact
that she is always too tired to go out.
She
lives in an affluent area in Chelsea and drives a sports car.
She could afford to go anywhere in the world on holiday but never
does so incase she misses out on something happening at work.
Jane
has few friends and sometimes is lonely “The money makes
up for it though” she states.
The
question now is, in your opinion:
Which
one of the above is the most successful to you?
When
I was in my teens I would have said Jane without doubt.
She
has got plenty of money, she’s got a great car and a great
job. Nowadays, I would probably say Bill as he seems the most
happiest, content with life and is fulfilled.
Once
again it will depend on your definition, and your definition of
success will have been formed by a number of factors.
In
my teens I was just a materialistic machine!
Your
definition of success will have been formed by a number of factors.
Your definition of success is formed by:
All of the above will contribute as to what success means to you.
There
is a myth that states that people are born winners or born losers.
Nothing
could be further from the truth.
There
are techniques, methods and ways of behaving that will enable
and help you to succeed.
You
owe it to yourself to get the most out of your life.
The
worst thing that you can do is to look back in 40 or 50 years
time and say “I wish I had done this” or “I
wish I had done that”.
Know
where you are going in life
Creating
a vision and a mission of what you want out of life will provide
you with some direction and momentum to move forward.
Do
you feel as though you are stuck in a rut or lack some direction
and purpose to your life? Are you just drifting along from one
day to the next?
What
is your life all about?
Do
you let events happen to you rather than going out and making
them happen?
When
you have a compelling vision, you will feel good about yourself.
You know where you are going life and have a purpose to it all.
When
you feel in control of your life and events you will naturally
feel more confident and motivated to achieve more.
Ask
yourself the following question:
What
do you really want to get out of life?
A
true mission has to express your purpose for existence.
I
have devised a series of questions for you to ask yourself in
order for you to do some soul searching and to give yourself some
insights into what you are all about and why you are here:
The whole point of getting you to think about those questions
above was to really get you to think about what you want and wanted
for your life.
Answer
the questions yourself and write down your own mission statement
below:
Writing
a mission statement is not easy and it shouldn’t be something
that is rushed.
It
shouldn’t be something that is just put on a “to do”
list to be fitted in-between dinner and bedtime either!
Instead,
if possible you should try and get away from your normal environment.
Go
for a walk, or take a short break – your mission in life
is far too important to be skimmed over.
When
people lack a mission in life, they tend to just have materialistic
goals and want “things”.
But
after people have achieved, achieved and achieved some more they
say to themselves “Is that all there is?”
Success
without fulfilment is failure!
Your
mission statement is just that; it is a statement about why you
are here on earth.
Another
good exercise for you to complete is to write your own obituary!
This
is an ideal way to get you to think about what you want to do
in your life time.
Pretend
that you have just passed on; think about your achievements, your
life’s work and what you have done for others in your lifetime.
What
will you be remembered for when you pass on?
Write
your own obituary of what your life was about and what difference
it made.
Okay!
That’s it for this week!
Next
week we will be covering:
Part
2: The goal setting workshop
Mapping
out what you want in your life
from hereon in!
Don’t
forget to complete your assignments and I’ll see you the
same time, same place next week!
Until
then take care
Sean
